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Note from Taarika Board Member, Punam Nagpal, who led the Conflict Management series with Ms. Deborah La Fond LMFT.
Conflicts can occur at home, in the workplace, and in society. The main reason for most of my conflicts ends up being misunderstanding and Mr. Doubt. In my experience, 90% of conflicts can be resolved by removing the misunderstandings and doubts and if we can let go of the remaining 10%, we can have a beautiful relationship with almost everyone at home, in the workplace, and throughout our communities.
I had the pleasure to record nine podcast episodes with Ms. Deborah La Fond LMFT, who is a Psychotherapist and an expert working with kids and families for more than 22 years. In these podcasts, we discussed the sources of conflicts at home, the possible consequences of these conflicts, and of course, the strategies to handle these surprisingly-common situations.
In the final episode, I shared my own learnings of managing conflicts with my son and daughter, who are now 15 and 20 years old, respectively. During this parenting journey, I had to unlearn 4 Cs – Comparison, Criticism, Competition, and Control. At the same time, I embraced other 4 Cs – Communication, Collaboration, Connection, Compassion.
I learned that I need to be a role model for my kids. Whatever I want my child to learn, first I need to exhibit that in my own behavior – “walk the talk.” Nurturing their body is important by offering nutritious food but nurturing their soul is equally important. Comparison, Criticism, Competition and Control drain their inner powers while Communication, Collaboration, Connection, Compassion will empower them to choose and walk on the right path. Powerful parents will raise powerful kids. If I create vibrations of worry, anger and conflict at home, that will make the whole family weak. It’s the parents’ responsibility to make a peaceful and harmonious environment at home.